I am 37 years old at the moment. Born in a village in Turkey which was literally only 90 minutes from Syrian border. My mother is a true Cinderalla. Her mom(my grandmother) died while giving birth to my mom. My grandfather married another woman and that woman used my mom as her slave and forced her to clean the house etc. My mom didn't know how to read and write because she never went to any school. She died May 1, 2012. My father who also didn't go to any school was a shepherd. He started smoking when he was 8 years old. He was smoking and then burning his skin with his cigarette so he wouldn't fall asleep while taking care of the sheep. He of course didn't know how to read and write. He died May 9. 2014(Exactly 1 year as of tomorrow) I am drunk now. I am drinking since 4 PM. I miss my mother and father dearly. They did their best so I could be my best. I attended the best college in Turkey. Graduated with honors degree from an American college founded in Turkey in 1863(Roberts College). I now work at an international company who is in top 100 in the world in terms of sales. I am 37. I look back and see 2 wonderful people who made me who I am now. Born in a mountain village to a father and mother who didn't know how to read and write. And tomorrow is my father's death anniversary. I miss them. I miss those 2 wonderful people. Sorry guys. I had to vent. Tonight my heart is very heavy.
Sorry about your loss Brooklyn. I can only imagine your parents raised you into a great person and you are doing the same with your family. I am very close with my mother too who also raised me and my two sisters without knowing how to read or write. I am very close with her and she taught me alot about values, working hard and caring for those important to you. It has led to my success as a professional and personally she has raised me into a smart man. It is a great thing that we cannot ever forget... Don't be sad, if you are a man of faith maybe you can rest easy knowing that your mother and father are with each other and that they are always keeping an eye on you.
Our dead are never dead to us until we have forgotten them... Some English dude said that. It's cool man vent away.
Honor them by becoming more than you are today. They sacrificed so that your life could be better than theirs. That is the truest mission of any parent. To see their progeny do better than they did. To give them a better life. You've done well in your 37 years. You're not even half way to the finish line yet so, continue to improve yourself and your family and your ancestors will be proud of you. Just remember, you didn't get to where you are alone so, do not dishonor them. Be the best Brooklyn you can be and at all costs, never half do anything. Remember, your ancestors are always there to guide you should you ever need it.
It's ok dude, let it out. We've all been there. Every November 17th, I do the same thing. I shut down and just wallow in the memories. You're a good man even though a likely terrorist, and this board is better for having you here. Honor your parents, based on our personal talks, they did a great job with you. Peace be with you tonite. _
Hang in there Brooklyn! Sounds like you had 2 great parents. Be thankful for that. Not everyone does.
If this keeps getting worse Brooklyn your company should have EAP programs for counseling. Its OK to grieve however you like so dont feel bad. Had a big loss myself last year. Get some therapy man, it works.
Judging by the stories you tell on here, you are a great parent yourself Brooklyn, so you are carrying on their legacy nicely.
Thanks guys. And thanks to folks who reached out to me thru Private Message. Yesterday I was pretty drunk when I started the thread and I now feel ashamed to write all these things. But thanks to you, I realized TGG is more than an internet forum for me. Thanks for all the support. jonny. Dude Turkish woman are ugly. Believe me you are not missing much. Stokes. I hate you. I gave your name to Al Qaeda already. Go deal with them. I am tired of you. joe. Hangover is bad sir but I think I am OK now. BrowningNagle. Thanks sir. I hope I can be half the parents they were. CBG. You are the man. Grandpa. I really see you and this Stokes guy as my big brothers. Thanks for being here with your kind words.
I wasn't always the sage yoda figure before you today. Life has a way of teaching lessons to everyone, everyday. The trick is to recognize these lessons, learn from them and never forget them. You will soon find that your path isn't as complicated as you might think nor are you walking this path alone. Brooklyn, you have a long life in front of you. Learn how to enjoy it!
