No, I'm the sane one who doesn't give a crap about stupid nonsense. Here's another: I got filthy looks all day long at my MILs 80th birthday party years ago because I didn't attend a Baby Shower three states away a month before. Get the hell out of here. If you were that insulted that I don't care about such nonsense, then don't cash my check, send the gift back to me at my expense, or donate it to charity and shut up. EDIT & P.S.: Baby Showers in general are a horrid and stupid idea. If something should go wrong, you have to deal with an empty nursery and gifts that were meaningless in the first place. Healthy baby first, party after.